Keeping Up With The Word

Hey there! Miss me? I’ve missed being here. How are you doing? Hope well!

Have you ever struggled with reading your Bible & praying? Does it seem like a chore sometimes? Well you’re not alone, it happens to the best of us. I’ll never forget when I just came into a relationship with God, I was excited, I absolutely loved it. It was 2006 and I was in college. In class I would wish for my professor to hurry up so I could go back to my dorm to continue reading the book of 1st Samuel. God, Jesus the Holy Spirit and my Christian walk took priority. But I must have gotten comfortable, the excitement didn’t wear off per se but you could say laziness set in. Till today I still read my Bible everyday however I can go with reading a verse or 2 instead of a chapter or 2. I long realized that in order for me to grow I needed to dwell in the Word. One way God speaks to me is through His Word, so if I am not reading it how would I hear what He has to say? Life distracts us, we get consumed with the things in front of us that we forget what’s important. You know how you “catch” yourself when you’re about to fall? Well we also have to catch ourselves when we realize that we are going backwards instead of forward. I continue to look for ways to commit to reading the word of God even with my busy schedule. Could I possibly be too busy for God? How about you? Can you be too busy for God? There are different ways to hold yourself accountable. One thing I did to hold myself accountable was to start a Bible Study with a few friends on WhatsApp, it has helped to keep me, and them, accountable. We have a partnership structure that works and that is beneficial. It is definitely a positive addition to my schedule. If you’ll like to join send me an email & I’ll be glad to add you. 

Studying and meditating on the Word of God is very important, let our lives reflect this truth. Hunger for God, hunger for His Word.

Enjoy the rest of your weekend!

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What Are You Doing With Your Time?

Argh! It’s been 4 months. Record for the longest time I’ve been away. How are you? Doing good? I hope so.

I got a wake up call sometime ago and I’m not even sure what triggered it. I realized that I wasn’t using my time efficiently and I needed to do something about it. You see, I always used being “busy” as an excuse.  Busy doing what exactly? Going over my day and the things I achieved I came to the conclusion that I could have done so much more with my day and my week if I had used my time more effectively. 

I am not here to talk about how you can better use your time, I’m sure there are a million and one articles on that. However, maybe this would be your wake up call.

How many times have we said we were too busy to pray and study the Bible. In the city I live in I can sit in traffic for hours depending on the day. I had to find creative ways to maximize that time and spend time with God. For any believer we need to grow and there is no way we are going to grow if we don’t spend time in the Word and in Prayer – Joshua 1:8. 

Can we ever be too busy for God? Is He ever to busy for us? Expecting a miracle, a blessing, a prayer answered but not willing to spend time with the giver of them. 

I need to say sorry. Sorry Lord for being to “lazy” to spend time with You. You’re my priority not an option. You’re the reason I am and You’re everything to me. May my actions and not just my words show my love for you. King of my life, lover of soul.

Have you woken up yet?  

I hope not to be gone this long again.

The Best Friend You Ignore

Who? What? I don’t understand? I don’t ignore anyone. Well, yes you do, most times we ignore the Holy Spirit, especially when He is correcting and leading us. 

And I will ask the Father, and he will give you another advocate to help you and be with you Forever – John 14:16 NIV

One day I was in church, we were all worshipping and someone started screaming I looked around and got distracted from my own worship. In my mind I began to think, why is this person shouting? Aren’t there other ways to worship? The Holy Spirit immediately convicted me by saying to my spirit “what is your business in how a person chooses to worship? Focus on your own worship.” Immediately I repented, closed my eyes and went back to worshipping. Till today I still close my eyes when I worship it helps me not get distracted.

But I, the LORD, search all hearts and examine secret motives. I give all people their due rewards, according to what their actions deserve.” Jeremiah 17:10 NLT

I can never know what is in another persons heart, what they are thinking or their relationship with God. Therefore, I need to be careful about the assumptions I make. The Holy Spirit helps us with that daily, draws us into becoming better, loving people. The greatest fruit of the Spirit is Love. So if you don’t do things in love are you really heeding to the Spirit? You know that inner voice you hear that leads you to do right? It’s the Holy Spirit, He can never lead us astray. However, many of us think walking in love and doing the right thing makes us foolish. But so what if it does? I would rather look like a fool to the world than be a fool to God.

Don’t ignore that nudge, push, gentle stirring. Take correction, take direction, take insight. He provides all of this and more. 

The mind governed by the flesh is death, but the mind governed by the Spirit is life and peace. Romans 8:6

He leads us to life and peace. Stop ignoring the one that has your best interest at heart. Stop ignoring your best friend.

HAPPY NEW YEAR!!!

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I know I am 13 days late! How is the new year treating you so far? I hope good!

I usually seek inspiration before I write. Everything must be in place. I believe that’s why I don’t put up as many posts as I can, because I actually have a lot to say. I have decided to just go ahead and write! No matter how I’m feeling. I hope this year you’ll do something that you’ve been stalling on too. Take action! Any action no matter how small is very important. Meanwhile, I’ll keep writing here about this Christian journey of faith and love. I’ll keep being honest that it isn’t easy, but we will get to the finish line with honors!

GIVEAWAY!

My friend Michael ODK released an amazing album recently and I would like to gift one of my readers a copy. If you’re interested send an email to talk2tolu@yahoo.com indicating interest. The first email I receive gets it! However, you must reside in Lagos, Nigeria. Check out the album cover below:

See you on the next one! Remember God loves you unconditionally!

Why I Wait

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Hey people! Beautiful people! I’ve been away for a while but I’m back now! I came across this article on Facebook. And it is probably the best one I have read on sexual purity in like ever! I do not like to tell people “I’m waiting till marriage” because I do not believe that statement explains my “why.” I could possibly have written the article below because the author and I share the same opinions on this topic. Some things that I want to point out that are very important are: Firstly, purity isn’t just sexual it’s in all aspects, so you want to keep your thoughts and everything else pure too. Secondly, as the writer points out,  just because someone is a virgin and you’re not doesn’t make them holier than you. We are all sinners saved by the precious blood of Jesus. Thirdly, it’s never too late, you can always pursue purity. You can make a decision to be celibate. Lastly, the writer didn’t mention this but for those that have been sexually abused- in your Fathers eyes you’re whole. That experience isn’t who you are. See yourself the way God sees you. Amazingly wholesome 🙂

Photo credit- me!


5 Misconceptions About ‘Waiting for Marriage’

What not everyone understands.

By Ethan Renoe
Possibly the most common question I get from people who have different beliefs and practices from mine is, “So have you lost your virginity yet?”

They never ask about my writing, my travels, my heart or my other friends.

Just that.

After years of being asked why I’m still a virgin, and summing up volumes of logic and theology into about two sentences, I think there are several misconceptions people have about those of us who want to remain chaste until our wedding days. Here are five common ones:

Misconception #1: People waiting for marriage don’t struggle with sexual desires.

Nope. Not true.

No one could be more excited for his or her wedding day than I am.

People who choose to wait until marriage do not magically have less sexual desires than everyone else. But they understand the Bible’s call to abstain because sex is something to be shared in a covenant. And honoring God in that area becomes a higher priority than sexual fulfillment.

Misconception #2: Waiting is just because we’re ‘religious.’

For me, this is a big factor in my decision to wait until marriage. I want to honor God with my body and with my use of His gift of sex.

But a lot of my decision also comes down to logic and a love for my future spouse.

I have a friend who doesn’t share the same beliefs who once explained how amazingly spiritual and bonding it is to unite yourself to this other person through sex. Then she told me she has probably slept with over 150 people.

If sex really is as powerful as she said it is, I want to save that for the one person in my life I want to share that with for the rest of my life. The person I have committed myself to. Someone I can trust wholly and completely, and fully give my whole self to without fear or insecurity.

Misconception #3: Sex is just that ‘one line’ you can’t cross.

A friend at college once explained his views on celibacy as more of a sliding scale.

This isn’t true. The goal is to live a pure life holistically. It’s not a matter of, “How far exactly can we go without it being too far?” but rather, “Is this honoring one another and honoring God?”

Misconception #4: People who wait are on moral high ground.

A lot of people get embarrassed or ashamed when they learn I have chosen to wait. But Christians recognize that all of us are on level ground before God. I may not have had sex but I am a sinful human in need of the grace of God every day.

My pursuit of purity is not to feel more spiritual than people who haven’t “waited for marriage,” it’s because I have found that this is the wisest way to prepare for a future marriage and honor the Lord with my body.

I have no moral high ground to stand on. After all, Jesus Himself said that anyone who looks upon a woman lustfully has committed adultery with her in his heart.

The standard for purity is more than physical.

Misconception #5: If you’re already not a virgin, it’s too late to pursue purity.

I have talked to many people who are disappointed because they have already had sex.

The Bible speaks a lot about renewal and restoration, and if you have had sex in the past, don’t let that fact, and the shame that may accompany it, determine your future.

You can choose right now to live a chaste life. God has already forgiven mistakes you may have felt you’ve done in the past and purity is a worthy pursuit no matter where you are in life.

It’s never too late to choose be a people who, from this day forward, long to live in the light, honor our bodies and those of others, being one in thought and action for the edification of the church, rather than out of a selfish pursuit of pleasure.

Let’s learn to walk in that freedom.

 


 

I came across a poet on Instagram @poetolu and while going through some of his poems I saw this one and liked it. I think it ties in very well with this post:

See you on the next one! It’s Christmas time soon! You know that’s my favourite time of the year 😉


Source– This article was originally published at:  http://www.relevantmagazine.com/life/5-misconceptions-about-waiting-marriage#Q8lr21hWEgKQr4UE.99

To Me He Is Father

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God cares for you! In ways I can’t explain He loves you! Read below as Kenneth E. Hagin explains with scripture the love of God our Father. To read the full message go here.

The Father’s Care-  By Kenneth E.Hagin

…In John 14, Jesus tells us what it means to love God and to be loved by Him.

JOHN 14:21–23

21 He that hath my commandments, and keepeth them, he it is that loveth me: and he that loveth me SHALL BE LOVED OF MY FATHER, and I will love him, and will manifest myself to him.

22 Judas saith unto him, not Iscariot, Lord, how is it that thou wilt manifest thyself unto us, and not unto the world?

23 Jesus answered and said unto him, If a man love me, he will keep my words: and MY FATHER WILL LOVE HIM, and we will come unto him, and make our abode with him.

In this passage, we have the revelation of the Father’s attitude toward His children. There are two things in particular that are emphasized in these scriptures.

Number one, Jesus said, “He that has My commandments and keeps them . . .” (v. 21). What are Jesus’ commands? That we “love the Lord our God with all our heart, soul, mind, and strength and love our neighbor as ourselves” (Mark 12:30–31). Jesus said, “A new commandment I give unto you, That ye love one another; as I have loved you, that ye also love one another” (John 13:34). There’s no use for you to worry about any other commandment. Walking in love sums up the whole business because the Word of God says that love is the fulfilling of the law (Rom 13:10). If you keep Jesus’ command to love, you will have fulfilled the rest of the commandments.

Number two, Jesus said, “He that has My commandments and keeps them is the one who loves Me and the one who shall be loved by My Father” (v. 21). If you walk in love, you walk in God’s realm, for God is love (1 John 4:7). The great Father God is a love God. And if you walk in love, you walk in His realm. His very nature, because He is love, compels Him to care for you and protect you.

Even natural love cares for and protects. How much greater is divine love than natural love! Jesus said, “If ye then, being evil [or natural], know how to give good gifts unto your children, HOW MUCH MORE shall your Father which is in heaven give good things to them that ask him?” (Matt. 7:11). A thrill goes through my spirit when I get to that “how much more” part!

How many parents want their children to go through life poverty-stricken, nose to the grindstone, sick, afflicted, downtrodden, downcast, down-and-out? Not a single one! Many parents will sacrifice and work their fingers to the bone to help their children gain a better life than they had. Parents also want to shield and protect their children from hard times. Natural love does that. And if we, being natural, love that way, how much more does our Father God love and care for us!

In John 15:1, Jesus says, “I am the true vine, and my Father is the husbandman.” The Greek word translated “husbandman” also implies caretaker, protector, shield, trainer, and educator. Our Father God is the Caretaker. He is the Protector and Shield. He is the Trainer and Educator. As the husbandman trained the branches of the vine, so our Heavenly Father trains the branches of the Body of Christ.

Now then, since God loves me as He loves Jesus, I’m not afraid to face life’s problems, because He is with me as He was with Jesus!

 JOHN 16:32

32 Behold, the hour cometh, yea, is now come, that ye shall be scattered, every man to his own, and shall leave me alone: and yet I AM NOT ALONE, BECAUSE THE FATHER IS WITH ME.

Since the Father God loves us as He loved Jesus, then He is with us as He was with Jesus. Thank God, we’re not alone!

Nothing can be more comforting than the fact that the Father Himself knows you and loves you. When you study these statements that Jesus made relative to the Father, many scriptures in the Word take on new light. Many verses in the Bible become more real to us when we examine them in light of what Jesus said about the Father. Let’s look at just a few such verses.

1 PETER 5:7

7 Casting all your care upon him; for he careth for you.

This is the Father’s message to us. He wants us to end worry, fear, and doubt. You might say, “Can I do it?” Sure you can. You do it by casting all your care upon Father God. He wants you to abandon yourself to His love and to His care. So He said to cast     “ . . .the whole of your care [all your anxieties, all your worries, all your concerns, once and for all] on Him, for He cares for you affectionately and cares about you watchfully” (1 Peter 5:7 Amplified).

Philippians 4:6 almost becomes a new message to me when I read it as being from the very heart of the Father that Jesus came to introduce. “Be careful for nothing; but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known unto God.” The Amplified Bible says, “Do not fret or have any anxiety about anything, but in every circumstance and in everything, by prayer and petition (definite requests), with thanksgiving, continue to make your wants known to God.” This is a message from the very heart of my Father God.

God is sending you a message from His heart of love. He’s telling you that you can do anything. You can rise to the place where you are unafraid in the most unpleasant circumstances because you know that your Father is on your side. The Father’s love compels Him to care for you. When you know His love and learn to swing free in that love then all doubts and fears will be destroyed.

When you remember that your Heavenly Father loves you even as He loved Jesus, then you can understand why you need not be afraid—even as Jesus was not afraid. Psalm 27:1 says, “The Lord is my light and my salvation; whom shall I fear? the Lord is the strength of my life; of whom shall I be afraid?” God is your Light. He is your Salvation and Deliverance. He is the Strength of your life. There’s nothing to fear! Praise God! What can anyone do to the one whom God loves and protects?

Hebrews 13:5 says that God will never leave us or forsake us. “So that we may boldly say, The Lord is my helper, and I will not fear what man shall do unto me” (Heb. 13:6). I’m glad the Lord is my Helper. Is He your Helper? He wants to be your Helper today.

He also wants to meet all your needs. Philippians 4:19 says, “But my God shall supply all your need according to his riches in glory by Christ Jesus.” This is not religious jargon or mere preaching. This is a living truth from the heart of our wonderful Father.

Now when you read the Word, read it in light of God as your Father—the same kind of Father to you as He is to Jesus. The Word will come alive and so will your heart, as you realize and come to know experientially the great love your Father has for you.

I am so grateful for my Heavenly Father. His love for me is perfect. He may be Judge to the world. He may be God to the sinner. But to me—He is Father!

Culled from Rhema.org

Reference: http://www.rhema.org/index.php?option=com_content&view=article&id=256:the-fathers-care&catid=50&Itemid=146

Go and be blessed!!

Lagos Living!

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I have in no way abandoned this blog or the book of the month segment.  My major move is that I am back in Lagos, Nigeria!

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I was away for three years, but I will always be a Lagos girl. I lived 14 years of my life in this city. It is an amazing city but it definitely has its challenges.  One major one is that we have not had state provided power for the past 7 days. We have been using our generator. Yes, good for me that we have not just one but two generators. However, I think of the many people who either can’t afford a generator or the petrol required to power it. I was so excited my first week getting back, most especially seeing my family and friends that I hadn’t seen in a while and secondly for the delicious Nigerian food I had missed. As the days turned to weeks and then a month, I asked myself, where did the time go? I had so many lofty plans, stuff I hoped to achieve instantly but I was greatly disappointed things were not as I had imagined they would be. There was a week I struggled to remain positive my hopes were dwindling and this very optimistic person was not as optimistic anymore. But God!  J Sometimes I wonder how people make it through life without Him, like how? I can’t do it! I am still very optimistic and hopeful that things will work out in God’s time. It’s been about a month and a half now and I am in the planning stage of projects that I hope to reveal soon. I have learned to completely trust God no matter what. Yes, those moments of feeling discouraged still come and they will continue to come and I will continue to move past it. My strategy now has been to read the Word of God to fill my mind, heart and mouth with his promises and positive confessions. I am excited to be in Nigeria. I know I am back for a reason and I would fulfill purpose, I am very sure of that. I am also sure that I will encounter challenges, but that those challenges will only help build me to become better.

So expect more from me.

Be more to yourself .

And continue loving on God.

See you on the next one!

 

To Know What Love Truly Is

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One day when I was in my sophomore year of college I found a note in my bag. It was numbered ‘3’ and had a handwritten poem on it. I assumed it belonged to one of my roommates and I made a mental note to ask them when I got back that evening.  However, my roommates knew nothing about it and neither did my friends. The next day I found another one in my wardrobe, this time it was numbered ‘5’ with another love-like poem. That’s when I began to think that maybe these notes were for me, the person didn’t write a name but after reading both poems I knew it was from a guy because in the poems he had used male pronouns. I told my friends that I thought someone was leaving poems for me but I had no idea how he got it into my bag and now my wardrobe. My friends were extra giddy; this sort of adventure was exactly what they were looking for. They immediately became detectives over night. We were certain about one thing, someone who had access to my room was assisting him to drop the notes because we were in an all female dorm. Day after day I kept getting more poems, my friends started analyzing the handwriting starting with all my known crushes then we started paying extra attention to everyone that came into my room. Everyone was a suspect! Lol.

One day a friend and classmate came to borrow some milk, she always came to my room so it wasn’t new. But as she picked up the milk I saw her drop a note! I screamed in excitement, I had finally caught the culprit! She gave me a look knowing she had been caught.  I begged and begged her to tell me who had asked her to drop the notes but she refused, she said I was supposed to figure it out on my own. I pleaded with her that if she told me I wouldn’t mention it to the person and I’ll pretend that I didn’t know. When she finally told me I was extra shocked. It was someone I least expected, to be honest I didn’t know how to feel.   Each day after that she handed me the next few poems the last one had the final clue that was supposed to help me figure out who the mysterious person was. I was going to see him that week because we worked together in a unit at school. I was very impressed that he went out of his way to show me how much he liked me and he did it in such a creative way, I really felt special. When we met face to face it was awkward, I could see that he was shy and in a way so was I. As he talked I fixed my eyes on him. I believed every word he said, he was sincere.  But did I love him? I liked him. He was kind, funny, smart, and romantic. But as he professed love for me I felt a sense of guilt. Did I love him the same way? Could I say everything he was saying to me back to him and actually mean it? I remembered all the poems and now they had greater meaning, could I write the same things to him? The answer to the questions were no. I felt sick to my stomach this was incredibly hard for me. Did he deserve someone who loved him any less? But who was I to say what he did or did not deserve? My mind and feelings were all over the place but I was sure of one thing I did not love him the same way he loved me. Telling him this was one of the most difficult things I ever did. I did not expect him to understand. I expected nothing of him. Our friendship was never the same and I ended up joining another unit so I didn’t see him as often till we both graduated. Looking back I wonder did either of us know what love truly was?

I don’t know what your relationship with God is right now, whether or not other things are taking first place in your life and God takes a back seat.  But I have always believed that you will never know what love truly is until you know God. God is love! (1st John 4:8). If your heart is in the right place and you understand the God-kind of love then you’ll know the difference between love, lust, desire or infatuation. So many people are putting themselves in situations they shouldn’t be in because they think ‘they are in love.’ True love does exist but it would never ask you to do things that are against God’s will (His word). 1 Corinthians 13 is true love. Please don’t get me wrong nobody is perfect we all make mistakes. Nevertheless, if you know God you’ll know love and it’ll make you that much wiser. So take the time to know Him today and experience true love.

Pray this prayer with me:  Father Lord, don’t let me love like the world loves. But let me love like you love. I want to know you. Teach my heart the way that it should go. Teach me to love you first and provide me with the strength to give this love to another. Let me know what love truly is and not mistake it for something else.  Thank you for your undying and steadfast love, it is beyond measure and I would be forever grateful for it.

 

P.s  Write poems 😉

Two Months, Too Much

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And too long for me to have been away 😦 There have been a lot of changes in my life in the past weeks, plus I’m planning a big move. No excuses, just explaining. This blog is one of my priorities and I should treat it as such. I just started typing not knowing what I was going to write, but I will not be writing anything much today I just want to encourage you to trust in God. Trust in  His will, His time, His ways, and most importantly trust that He is a God that loves you and always has your best interest at heart. I got the heading of this post from one of Bishop Oyedepo’s famous sayings. “Two months, too much” God doesn’t need two months to complete anything, He can do it in a split second but you only have to trust in His timing (Proverbs 3:5-6).

I went for Hillsong’s Empires Concert here in Denver at the Pepsi Center. I cried as I worshipped, it was a pure and undiluted time in God’s presence. What a amazing God we serve! I will forever be in awe of Him. I would like to share with you two songs out of the Empires album that speaks to me everytime and I hope it blesses you too!

Even When it Hurts (Praise Song) Official Lyric Video — Hillsong UNITED

Here Now (Madness) Official Lyric Video — Hillsong UNITED

I’ll be posting again pretty soon!

Have a great weekend!

 

For Surely There is an End…

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I want to encourage someone today who may be going through things unspeakable. I want you to know that…

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I enjoy walking and on a good day I can walk really long distances. It’s the only form of exercise I do right now, so why not? One day in Lagos I couldn’t find a bus and decided to start walking to my destination. I could see the top of the building I was heading to and every step seemed to bring me closer to it. The fact that my destination was in sight made my walk easier even though I was walking in near 100 degree Lagos heat without a bottle of water. I probably walked about 2 miles that day.  If I couldn’t see my destination my walk may not have been so easy, I would have grown tired quickly and may have given up. However, because I could see and was focused on my destination I was encouraged to keep on going, past any obstacles, until I reached it.  Personally, besides the grace of God, what has brought me through trying times is the knowledge and the fact that problems have an expiry date, they won’t last forever. This encourages me and gives me strength to keep trusting God that soon, it will be over.

When I was about six or seven there was a playground at the back of our house, my siblings and I went there all the time. On Wednesdays, the ice-cream truck would come by. Excited, I would run home and ask my parents to please give me some money so I could buy an ice-cream cone. Sometimes they obliged, other times they didn’t. This particular day my mum said no, I went back to the playground and saw other kids crowding the ice-cream truck. I badly wanted some ice-cream, if you know me you know till today I still love ice-cream especially cone ice-cream. Sitting on the grass watching the other kids scuffle over who could get their order in first I thought to myself, “One day I’ll be able to buy my own ice-cream.” Fast forward to nearly 20 years later, my co-worker and I were leaving work for home when I heard the familiar sound of an ice-cream truck. Only that this wasn’t a truck it was a barrow, and it didn’t have ice-cream it had ice-lollies. All the same, memories came flooding back and I remembered telling myself that I would one day buy my own ice-cream.  Don’t think it took me nearly twenty years to buy ice-cream for myself!  I honestly do not remember the first time that happened, but that was probably the first time I remembered my childhood expectation.

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God’s word to us is sure, He never lies and He always has only good things in store for us.Mayabe you’re thinking what you’re going through is never going to end. And at this point you’re probably comparing your life to others who seemingly have it better than you. Let’s look at different biblical versions of Proverbs 23:18:

KJV

 For surely there is an end; and thine expectation shall not be cut off.

Amplified

Surely there is a future [and a reward],And your hope and expectation will not be cut off.

*That future does not include the present pain*

NIV

There is surely a future hope for you, and your hope will not be cut off.

Let us take a look at the preceding verse;

 Proverbs 23: 17 Do not let your heart envy sinners, but always be zealous for the fear of the Lord.

I guess I’ll just let that sink in.

 

Every. Single. Thing.  You. Need. Is. In. God. You won’t find it anywhere else, so don’t bother. Keep your trust in Him, read, have faith and believe His word. Remember, There is nothing too hard for God and He loves us too much to see us wallowing in pain when He has given us all the authority we need. So stand up and speak to any issue in your life that has been giving you sleepless nights. Tell it that it surely has an end and your hopes, aspirations, goals, dreams, desires, longings shall not be cut off!

Have a great weekend!